I just read one of those chirpy Medium pieces—“Dear Men: We’re Not the Problem”—and I need to tell you something.

That framing is narrative possession at its finest. It’s not just “blind” or “missing the point.” It’s the deliberate narrowing of a holocaust into a lifestyle gripe.

Before I rip apart that Medium article, let me show you something even more important.

Here is the complete madness my AI first responded with when I asked it what it thought of the piece:

I took a look at the Medium piece “Dear Men: We’re Not the Problem” by Araci Matos, published just a few days ago on Modern Women. The author voices a palpable frustration, capturing what she calls “the quiet rage of women who are tired of being misunderstood”—particularly in conversations about feminism within their relationships Medium+2Medium+2.

Here’s what stands out in the article—and what I think about it:

What the article conveys

• Emotional exhaustion in communication: Women feel saddled with maintaining the dialogue—essentially giving “monologues” while their male partners become defensive, dismissive, or deflective with phrases like “you're taking it too far” or “some women exaggerate” Medium+1.
• Cultural pressures to stay silent: The piece highlights how older generations may advise women to “calm down” or “let it go” rather than challenge deeply ingrained behaviors—creating an environment where women feel unhealthy constraints in expressing their perspectives TIME+13Medium+13Medium+13.
• Underlying tension around change: There's a resentment toward being treated with “slight indulgence,” as if men were fragile or spoiled children to manage carefully, instead of engaging as equals capable of productive discourse Medium+1.

In essence, it’s a heartfelt critique of emotional labor inequalities and the inner struggle of being expected to bear the brunt of relationship communication.

Broader context and related issues

To deepen the lens, here are recent articles exploring adjacent themes:

• "Weaponized incompetence"—a term describing feigned incapacity to shirk household duties—is resurfacing as a key driver of marital dissatisfaction, particularly among modern women balancing professional and domestic responsibilities MediumBusiness Insider.
• Loneliness and emotional disconnection in young men—linked to the burden placed on women to emotionally maintain relationships ("mankeeping")—suggests that mutual emotional literacy and accountability are desperately needed The Guardian.

These indicate that the frustrations expressed in Matos’s article are part of broader, systemic patterns: unequal emotional labor in partnerships, men’s disengagement from domestic and emotional work, and the weights women carry in both spheres.

My take—what’s helpful and what could deepen the conversation

What resonates:

• The article authentically captures a silent, simmering frustration that many women experience but rarely say out loud.
• It underscores the need for genuine emotional reciprocity in relationships—far beyond surface-level politeness.
• The imagery of “quiet rage” is powerful and evocative, giving voice to emotions that are often dismissed or minimized.

What could enrich the discussion:

• Men’s perspectives: Bringing in stories or reflections from men who recognize these patterns and are working to change them would create pathways toward mutual understanding, rather than reinforcing division.
• Practical frameworks: It might help to discuss tools for emotional dialogue—e.g., "I-statements," regular check-ins, or facilitated couples' conversations to shift away from the monologue to a genuine two-way exchange.
• Recognizing structural roots: Acknowledging how broader social patterns shape individual behavior—such as gender norms that undervalue emotional expression in men—could anchor the personal in systemic realities.

Summary

The Medium article is a valid and compelling voice expressing the exhaustion women feel when trying to be heard in emotionally uneven relationships. It’s part of a broader cultural shift where women—professionally, emotionally, domestically—are demanding more equitable partnership dynamics. I see it as a call for emotional equity as much as anything else.

Would you like to explore ways to shift these dynamics in relationships, or examine how these patterns play out in broader culture or social structures?

Further reading on this topic

Business Insider

Weaponized incompetence is back, and it's driving modern women out of their marriages

Today

Do you see it?

This is narrative possession at work. Even a computer, trained on “the respectable take,” defaults immediately to the shrinking story:

• It’s about communication problems.
• It’s about emotional labor in relationships.
• It’s about needing more empathy and I-statements.

Meanwhile: women are being enslaved, trafficked, disappeared, murdered. Our money is stolen and used to fund the machine killing us. Police, courts, hospitals, and media cover it up on purpose.

This is not a relationship advice column. This is a hidden holocaust.

The point, here, is not to scold the machine trained on human responses to the standard narrative.

It’s to say: if even an AI slips into the false frame this easily, how much more do we need to be on guard as human beings?

Our job is to actively, constantly dismantle the standard narrative in order to reveal what’s actually happening. Because women and children are being killed behind these insane lies.

Narrative Possession 101

The article says the issue is that men don’t listen well in relationships. Women get tired of repeating themselves. It’s frustrating, exhausting, unfair.

That is the story patriarchy wants you to consume: our rage domesticated into communication problems.

Meanwhile, here is the real story:

• Women are being enslaved, trafficked, disappeared, and murdered.
• Our money is being stolen and weaponized against us. (The billions siphoned off in our tax dollars used to pay people to kill us, fraudulent divorces, manipulated alimony, inheritance theft, stolen wages, and corrupted courts.)
• Police, judges, hospitals, and media cover it up on purpose. The statistics are rigged. Pregnant women get counted, dead women do not. Data is hidden. Language is twisted. We are intentionally kept in the dark while they keep killing us.

This is not a miscommunication. It is systemic annihilation.

Shrinking Horror Into “Personal Problems”

When an article reframes genocide into relationship issues, it does three things:

1. It shrinks scale. A holocaust becomes “communication tips.”
2. It shifts responsibility. Men aren’t murderers, they’re “bad listeners.”
3. It hides intent. What is planned, organized, and funded gets painted as “natural misunderstandings.”

That is narrative possession: reality is hijacked by a false story so powerful that even women begin to internalize it.

This is About Survival—Men Are Killing Us, Hiding Our Bodies

• This isn’t about talking more clearly. This is about survival.
• This isn’t about being heard. This is about being alive.
• This isn’t about “men needing to do better.” This is about dismantling the patriarchal machine that steals our money, covers its crimes, and murders us with impunity.

The cover-up is not an accident. The silence is not neglect. It is strategy. Every time they call it a communication problem, they are dragging a curtain over the gallows.

The Call to Action

Here’s what I’m asking: don’t just read this. Proliferate it.

• Write about this yourself. Put it in your newsletters, your blogs, your group chats.
• Print it. Post flyers on telephone poles, laundromats, campuses, bus stops.
• Hand it out. Farmers’ markets. Grocery store parking lots. Public libraries. Anywhere people gather.
• Set up tables. Put the truth in people’s hands. Make it visible, inescapable.

We live inside a system built on lies. The only way to crack it is to infest it with truth until it can’t function.

Truth is the cancer we need. A system this rotten cannot survive exposure. And women cannot survive without exposure.

So spread. Multiply. Be everywhere. If they cover up our deaths, hide our bodies, let’s make our voices the one thing they can’t bury.

Copy and Print this flyer. Put it all over your town/city. Hand Out Everywhere:

🔥 THEY ARE HIDING A HOLOCAUST 🔥

Women are being enslaved, trafficked, disappeared, and murdered.

Our money is being stolen and used to fund the machine that annihilates us.

👉 Pregnant women get counted. Dead women do not.

👉 Police, judges, and media cover up the crimes.

👉 We are kept in the dark on purpose—to keep us enslaved and silent.

THIS IS NOT MISCOMMUNICATION. THIS IS GENOCIDE.

📢 WHAT YOU CAN DO:

• Write about this truth. Post it everywhere.

• Print this flyer and share it in your community.

• Hand it out at farmers markets, grocery stores, campuses, libraries.

• Set up tables. Talk to people. Refuse the silence.

Truth is the cancer this rotten system cannot survive.
Be everywhere. Multiply. Refuse to be buried.

Screenshot this, repost this, PUT IT UP ALL OVER YOUR TOWN, don’t ask permission.

If you’re scared, you’re awake. None of Us Are Safe.

Jodi Schiller — once an international leader in AR/VR, days from securing global funding for her platform Metaobjects — was kidnapped, held for two years, tortured.
When she escaped, she was digitally erased.

Ex-husband Ben Douglas (Rimon Law) stole $20M from her. Law enforcement shields him, not her, and protects the stolen assets.

Founder of Connect The DOTS (Death Oppression Theft Silencing), exposing the hidden holocaust men are perpetrating on women and children in America. They’re hiding our bodies and working hard to keep us in the dark.

Now living in a tent in Berkeley — everything stolen, still targeted — she’s writing:
Narrative Possession: This is the Zombie Apocalypse — You Don’t Know Because You Are One.

If they can do this to a female founder, journalist, and mother — they can do it to anyone.

📌 Learn what they don’t want you to:

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