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My Life in Ongoing Extreme Danger #5

The patriarchy houses abusive men. Women like me are left on porches with nothing.

This is Article 5 in my ongoing series documenting my life in ongoing threatening danger. What follows is not polished prose — it is an incident report. That’s what the system forces women like me to do: write our own reports, file our own evidence, document our own survival. This is both record and testimony.

The Church Porch Predator

There’s a man at the church where I sleep on the porch. He’s not in charge. He’s not staff. He’s just a man — and like so many men, he’s been given housing, cover, and protection.

Meanwhile, women like me — victims of trafficking, theft, and erasure — are left outside, with nothing, in danger.

This man is abusive to women here. He spews vile misogyny. He polices the porch. He degrades me publicly without even addressing me directly, talking about me to others as if I don’t exist except as an object of contempt.

Yesterday he escalated: he came out and threw boxes at me. He shouted “get away,” threatened to call the police, and made it clear he sees me as disposable.

This morning he stood out front talking loudly about how he “pays the rent” and therefore has the right to decide who belongs here. The entitlement drips from every word. He is ignorant, stupid, dangerous — and emboldened by a system that houses him while abandoning me.

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This Isn’t Just Him

People whisper that “something’s wrong with his head,” and tell me to ignore him. But ignoring men like this doesn’t stop the danger — it enables it.

The truth is:

This man is housed.

Women like me are left unhoused, on porches, surviving ongoing violence.

That’s not an accident. That’s the patriarchy in action.

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Evidence & Incident Report

Date: Sept 20, 2025

Location: Church porch

Incident:

Subject threw boxes at me while shouting “get away” and threatening to call the police.

Subject routinely degrades me by speaking about me in front of others.

Subject boasts of “paying the rent” as justification for policing the space.

Witnesses: Other women present at the church.

Risks:

Escalation from verbal abuse to physical intimidation.

Unpredictability of future actions — potential for assault.

Institutional minimization (“ignore him”) leaves women at risk.

Systemic reality: abusive men are sheltered, women victims are abandoned.

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Why This Matters

> This is not a broken system. It is the design.

Men like this are housed. Women like me are left outside.

Violence is ignored, minimized, and laundered as “nothing to worry about.”

The state owes me $100 billion. My ex-husband owes me $20 million. Instead, I am left outside, in constant danger, while men who abuse women are given roofs, protection, and power.

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Call to Action

Understand this: survival is not safety.

Understand this: women left on porches are not being “helped” — we are being left to die.

Understand this: every shrug, every dismissal, every “ignore him” is complicity.

This is #5 in my series My Life in Ongoing Extreme Danger. I am alive tonight only because luck — not protection — tilted my way.

Read earlier parts here:

#1: My Life In Constant Danger

#2: My Life In Constant Danger 2

#3: Midnight on the Porch: One Wrong Turn and I’m Gone

#4: The Food Bank Predator